Stressed and Burnt Out? Reclaim Your Energy and Clarity

 

You’re exhausted before the day begins. You find yourself snapping at the people you love, procrastinating on things that matter, or lying awake at night with a head full of thoughts you can’t switch off.

Even on your days off, your body doesn’t seem to know how to relax. You keep pushing through, putting everyone else first, feeling guilty for taking a break—until eventually, something gives.

This is burnout. And it’s not just about having too much on your plate.

I know this feeling because I've been there.  

What I know to be true is that burnout is often the result of deep, subconscious programming—patterns you didn’t choose, but ones you’ve been unconsciously living by for years.

The good news? These patterns can be changed.
And Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) offers a powerful route to reset your nervous system, rewire your beliefs, and help you reclaim your life.


What Is Burnout, Really?

Burnout is a state of emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion caused by p...

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Driving Anxiety: Understanding the Root and Rewiring the Response

Do you dread getting behind the wheel?
Do you plan your route to avoid motorways, tunnels, or busy junctions?
Maybe your heart races as you approach a roundabout, or your palms sweat at the thought of merging lanes.

If so, you're not alone.

Driving anxiety affects thousands of people across the UK and around the world, and it can range from a mild sense of unease to a full-blown panic attack while driving. For some, it's a long-standing issue. For others, it appears suddenly sometimes after a difficult experience on the road, and sometimes for no conscious reason at all.

But here's the good news: Driving anxiety is not a life sentence. It’s a pattern that can be changed and Hypnotherapy using Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) offers a powerful route to long-lasting relief.

What is Driving Anxiety?

Driving anxiety is a specific type of situational anxiety. It’s your mind and body reacting as if driving—or a certain aspect of it—is dangerous, even when rationally, you know you’re...

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Navigating The Landscape of Autonomy Trauma: Rebellion, Shame, and the Path to Healing

Autonomy trauma refers to the deep-seated emotional wounds that occur when a child’s natural developmental need for independence and self-determination is stifled by overcontrol, neglect, or emotionally invalidating environments. This kind of trauma can shape a person’s identity (or lack thereof) and influence behaviour well into adulthood.

From a trauma-informed perspective, understanding the origins and manifestations of autonomy trauma is essential for healing. It often divides into two distinct paths: one where individuals rebel against the control imposed on them, and another where they internalise the messages of worthlessness, resulting in profound shame and self-criticism.

In this blog, we’ll explore the childhood conditions that create autonomy trauma, the divergent responses it evokes, and how compensatory strategies develop. We will also examine how Clinical Hypnotherapy, particularly using Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT), c

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Why Over Idealising Your Parents Might Be Stopping You From Recovering

If you’re experiencing anxiety, depression or internalised rage (whether menopausal or not) and you believed you had a happy childhood, you MAY be over idealising your parents.  Read the blog to gain more insight.

Now, before we dive in, I totally understand that this may well be a paradigm shifting read, but if you've found your way here, it's likely that you're already starting to take the rose coloured spectacles off. 

Be kind to yourself as you read this, you really don't need anything else to beat yourself up about. 

Take a breath.  

Believing you had a happy childhood does not make you exempt from having Complex Trauma which may be underlying your anxiety and depression.  Complex PTSD arises as a result of the quality of our attachments in early life.   

The obvious issues are abuse and neglect, but the less obvious ones are:

🥺 Not being allowed to rebel and find yourself (rebellion is how we find ourselves).
🥺 Feeling like you had to keep the peace (it's not your job to ke
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How to Manage Guilt From Relationships with Emotionally Immature Parents

Emotional immaturity is a subject that fascinates me.  The more I learn about it, the more I see it in others, but hands up, I've also seen it in myself.   The good news is, when you see it, you can learn from it. 

So strap in, and lets learn.  [Heads up, this topic was inspired by the Living Well Podcast and a conversation between Forest Hanson and Dr Lindsay Gibson]

One of the issues with having emotionally immature parents as an adult, is the guilt that can often be transferred to you.  It's their guilty, projected on to you and if you're not aware it's happening, you may assume it's YOUR guilt. 

In this blog we're going to explore ways of dealing with that guilt but first let's take a look at what emotional immaturity looks like in people so that you can understand it.  When you understand it, you're less likely to let the guilt penetrate your energy system because you'll know that IT'S NOT YOU.  

How Might Emotional Immaturity in Adults/Parents Present?

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Emotionally immatu...

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The Mindset Behind My Couch to 5k Expedition [Part 2]

I completed my 5k milestone on 20th February 2024... Ta Dah! 

And wow what an incredible experience running that final run.  I had Mutemath to keep me company in my ears and when I turned on to the beach decking at around 6pm to fun the final stretch, it was quiet, pitch black, just me and the beach.  I had the biggest smile on my face and I felt so high, in fact I kept on running after the bell.  

All I can say is, the feeling of achievement was so worth it. 

So welcome to part 2 of this blog, if you haven't read part one, you can read it here.

Here's where we get into the real nitty gritty of the mindset hacks I deployed to get me through some of the toughest moments.   

Let's dive in. 

When the going got tough, I pretended I was running with others
I’m a lone wolf.  Always have been.  I prefer living to the beat of my own drum.  But when the going gets tough, you need others.  I’d read somewhere that running in packs is encoded into our DNA and so when things felt tough I t...

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The Mindset Behind My Couch to 5k Expedition [Part 1]

If you’re thinking of embarking on a running program, or any similar fitness program, here’s a run down (pun intended) of my story and the mindset shifts that helped me. 

 

I knew WHY I wanted to do it

The discomfort of being breathless on flights was a big motivator for me.  This wasn’t just in my head, or caused by anxiety, this was physical breathlessness caused by altitude and I knew this would be a great problem to solve (especially as I knew I wanted to travel more).  But I was confused.  I knew this was linked to poor cardio ability (I HATED cardio and avoided it like the plague) but, the question was, did I need to do HIIT (High Intensity Interval Training) or more endurance type stuff?  An athlete friend suggested endurance and she recommended the Couch to 5k app.   So I signed up.  

 

I had to BELIEVE my body could do it

I exist in a heavier body and running made me feel like a big ole heavy lump.  I was close to 13 stone when I embarked on this with a dodgy knee and a ...

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Why Knowing About The Reticular Activating System Can Help You Make Changes

We painted our hallway blue, beautiful Marrakech blue, now I can't stop seeing it everywhere I go. 

My husband is the same.  Whenever we watch a film, go into a shop or restaurant, we see it.

Somewhere.

On the wall, in a picture, someone's wearing it. 

I'm sure it's always been there, we've just never NOTICED it before. 

But now, because this blue has MEANING to us, we are seeing it everywhere!  


Ta Dah ⬆️

Ok, I'm making a meal out of this for effect, because I knew this would happen after we'd painted our walls. 

And I knew this would happen because I'm fascinated with the Reticular Activating System.  

Here's a quick 101 on the RAS. 

The RAS is a network of neurons in the brain which acts as a filter for sensory information determining what stimuli are important and deserving of our attention.  We need this filtration system in our brain because in reality, there's just too much information in the world for us process at any one time.  We don't know it, but we are only se...

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What is REALLY Takes to Make a Lasting Change

Deep change takes a recognition of where we have split off from the authentic self. 

Having helped many clients deal with a range of things they want to change (from avoidant attachment styles to skin picking) what we’re really finding at the heart of the matter is a split from self. 

Therefore to heal is to reconcile with self and live in a more empowered way making every decision with authencity at the core, dissolving cognitive dissonance, the presence of which drives thoes pesky symptoms. 

People talk about authenticity a lot though but what does it really mean?

When we operate authentically we make choices from a place of our true identity, NOT an identity that  belongs to our childhood or that has been intervoven with beliefs rendered from traumatic events. 

When children have been parented in a way that over-rides their natural intuition using co-cercive control or manipulation, dis-empowering the child’s inner widsom, what you create in the child is a loss of true identity...

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Reviving Your Libido: 6 Ways to Boost Your Mojo During Menopause Using Your Mind

Have you heard of the expression, "You don't stop playing because you age, you age because you stop playing."  ?

Well I think something similar is going on with our libido during menopause. 

Yes the initial hormone decline may cause our libido to drop but it's OUR job to re-ignite it otherwise we end up in the trap that goes:  'you don't stop having sex because of menopause, you menopause because you stop having sex.'

Maybe that's not actual science, but there's something in the idea which feels important and certainly goes along with the theory of stereotype embodiment. 

The health benefits of sex and orgasms are phenomenal. 

The increased levels of nitric oxide released during orgasm bring improvements in: 

🍆 cardiovascular health including blood pressure.
🍆 exercise performance.
🍆 immune function.
🍆 memory and overall brain function.
🍆 wound healing.
🍆 anti inflammatory.
🍆 emotional regulation.

all of which support a healthier menopause and so I think we would do well to be curio...

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