I can't believe I'm about to say this...
I NEVER want you to be happy because what I want for you is so much bigger than happiness.
Ok, let’s dig.
Why do we only strive for this one emotion when there are so many more beautiful ones to experience?
I have a theory.
Because we’ve been hypnotised to believe that happiness is the thing we SHOULD want and there are certain things that will get us there.
The swimming pool, the house, the pay rise, the Gucci, the 5 star trips, the accolades, the milestones, the glitterati friendships.
But why is it that when we get there, it only feels good for a moment and then the emptiness settles in again?
It’s because happiness, like all emotion, is fleeting.
After working with people deeply for 23 years, I am 99.9% certain that happiness is not what most people want. They want something more enduring, something more foundational.
When my clients tell me that all they want is to...
Hating your body is a choice that you have been hypnotised into by diet culture. It's totally unnecessary and feels bad to your soul. If you've put weight on during menopause or you've always been curvy, you CAN learn to accept your body right now AND you can be healthy at every size.
Sound controversial? Damn right it is.
My guest today is Claudine Nightingill-Rane. She's a body image, mindset and blue health coach and she works with women to help heal their relationship with themselves and their bodies so they can be happy and healthy as they are.
In today's conversation we talk about:
The mental pain of yoyo dieting
Lifestyle changes can be diets too
How you THINK you look vs how you ACTUALLY look
The slow process of learning to accept your body
BMI - a flawed tool - aka The Bulls**t Measurement Index
The torture of fat shaming
Reclaiming the word FAT
Shrinking your body is a choice and you don't have to do it
The one big...
If you want a therapy that works, try hypnotherapy. Hypnotherapy is becoming one of the worlds most sought after therapies because of its ability to work deep into our conditioning and affect change very quickly.
I call it a no nonsense therapy. It gets right in there and right out again.
In today's episode I had the pleasure of talking to a fellow hypnotherapist about the profound work we do.
Sonia Samtani is CEO of the All About You wellness centre in Hong Kong, she's 2 x TEDX speaker, published author and NLP trainer (and of course, she's a very busy hypnotherapist).
In today's episode of The Menopause Mindset Podcast we discuss:
Conclusions that we come to about ourselves based on the messages we received.
The importance of asking why [why = wisdom].
Identifying the triggers that result in a cascade of negative thinking.
The difference between regression therapy and suggestion placement therapy.
When did we last award someone for being the most orgasmic, pleasure centred human?
Answer: erm... never.
So where are we supposed to get our inspiration from when it comes to giving ourselves permission to feel good? Where are the role models?
Enter: Jem Ayres.
Jem is a Sexological Bodyworker who pleasured her way out of Stage 4 cancer (along with all the conventional treatments of course).
In this conversation we talk about:
Recovering from Stage 4 cancer
The health benefits of orgasm
Full body orgasm vs genital orgasm
How we learn to 'tolerate' suffering
Do we even look up to role models who endorse pleasure?
How to ensure that chaos can’t touch you
Self development as a 'body' pursuit not just a 'mind' pursuit
Trusting & listening your own body vs the people around you telling you what to feel
Finding pleasure even in pain
Arousal and pleasure are two separate things.
The old idea of sex needing to end in orgasm
Black and white thinking around health, nutrition and weight loss is outdated, outmoded and redundant. If you think it's just a case of finding enough will power to stick to a diet, then, my friend, I'm afraid you're set up to fail.
My guest today has built up a credible reputation for helping thousands find a new relationship to food, their bodies and dieting.
In this conversation we talk about:
A time redefine ourselves and dieting.
Why we're sociologically conditioned for weight loss.
Re-writing the diet narrative.
Mindful weight loss / Mindful eating.
The human diet.
Understanding your motivations.
Our relationships to food.
SLOWING THE F**K DOWN
Black and white thinkings vs 'play in the grey'
Making people with desire & yearning.
Routine, routine, routine.
Progress over perfection.
But HOW do we accept a body we don't actually like.
So if you're ready to 'play in the grey', come join Tanja and me!
How do we become resilient to the challenges of menopause? Do we do nothing and let it overtake us or do we actively participate to become more adapted to this challenging phase of our lives?
The most helpful narrative I've come across is to be primed and ready for menopause as much as we can in order to avoid the massive pitfalls of ill health that can occur at this time.
My guest today is Beth Wright, a lawyer by day who moonlights as a Functional Medicine Practitioner and a Health Coach.... and frankly, SHE RIPPED!!
In this episode we chat about:
Holding down a job as a lawyer AND a health coach.
Muscle as a metabolic and endocrine organ.
Why generic programs are not a good idea especially during menopause.
The trainer client relationship.
What is a hormone reset and reboot.
Why we are programmed to function better in groups.
The reasons why intuitive eating sometimes goes out the...
If you're curious about the place inside of us where the mind and body come together, then look no further than the fascinating subject of Mast Cell Activation Syndrome.
When we take a look at MCAS what we're REALLY looking at, is the junction between the immune system and the nervous system.
Fascinating though it is, symptoms of MCAS can be incredibly annoying and often difficult to make sense of, and to top it all off, at menopause we become a little more susceptible to our Mast Cells becoming agitated leading to this pick and mix of symptoms.
My guest today is Tracey Reed who is the co-founder of Histamine Haven along with Luka Symmons. She is a Certified Holistic Nutritional Consultant, an instructor at the Canadian School of Natural Nutrition and the recipient of the 2018 Clinical Excellence Award.
In this episode we discuss:
What is Mast Cell Activation Syndrome (MCAS)?
Why is menopause a risk factor for increased auto immune issues?
In today's episode we'll find out.
My guest today, VJ Hamilton, was just seven years old when she first discovered a patch of alopecia at the back of her head. While there was a genetic component to this, during her adult life, her symptoms become worse, ranging from joint pain to extreme fatigue and psoriasis.
Unable to resign herself to the fact that there was nothing she could do, she decided to take matters into her own hands.
Today, after 7 years, she lives symptom free.
VJ is a autoimmune nutritionist and in our conversation together we discussed:
How our hormone changes can make trigger auto immune issues.
Symptoms of auto immune issues.
How a functional approach can help you become symptom free.
Swapping handbags for health.
How to keep healthy practices up for the long term.
The genetic component of auto immune...
My guest today, Emma Cooksey, was diagnosed with obstructive sleep apnea at the age of 30, after more than a decade of unexplained health problems.
Once diagnosed, she felt incredibly alone while navigating life with sleep apnea and adjusting to CPAP therapy.
After learning a great deal she began hosting a weekly podcast, “Sleep Apnea Stories.”
By sharing her journey and encouraging others to tell their stories, Emma has been breaking down stereotypes of sleep apnea while also raising awareness of symptoms and treatment options.
During our conversation today we touch on:
What's it like doing a sleep study
What are they measuring during a sleep study
What exactly is sleep apnea
Symptoms of sleep apnea
Treatments for sleep apnea
Risk factors for sleep apnea
Why does it seem to come up at menopause
Nervous system implications
So listen now if you're ready to enjoy gaining some new knowledge.