Why You Don't Really Want Happiness And What You Probably Want Instead

 

I can't believe I'm about to say this...

I NEVER want you to be happy because what I want for you is so much bigger than happiness. 

Ok, let’s dig. 

Why do we only strive for this one emotion when there are so many more beautiful ones to experience? 

I have a theory.

Because we’ve been hypnotised to believe that happiness is the thing we SHOULD want and there are certain things that will get us there.

The swimming pool, the house, the pay rise, the Gucci, the 5 star trips, the accolades, the milestones, the glitterati friendships.

But why is it that when we get there, it only feels good for a moment and then the emptiness settles in again?

It’s because happiness, like all emotion, is fleeting. 

After working with people deeply for 23 years, I am 99.9% certain that happiness is not what most people want.  They want something more enduring, something more foundational.  

When my clients tell me that all they want is to...

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How To Achieve More Embodied Pleasure with Jem Ayres

 

When did we last award someone for being the most orgasmic, pleasure centred human? 

Answer: erm... never.

So where are we supposed to get our inspiration from when it comes to giving ourselves permission to feel good?  Where are the role models?

Enter:  Jem Ayres.  

Jem is a Sexological Bodyworker who pleasured her way out of Stage 4 cancer (along with all the conventional treatments of course).

In this conversation we talk about:

Recovering from Stage 4 cancer
The health benefits of orgasm
Full body orgasm vs genital orgasm
How we learn to 'tolerate' suffering
Do we even look up to role models who endorse pleasure?
How to ensure that chaos can’t touch you
Self development as a 'body' pursuit not just a 'mind' pursuit
Trusting & listening your own body vs the people around you telling you what to feel
Finding pleasure even in pain
Arousal and pleasure are two separate things.
The old idea of sex needing to end in orgasm
Accessing pleasure...

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