How to Get Through The Hardest Part of Change
In my twenties, I decided I wanted to learn to ride a motorbike.
It didn't go well.
On the day of my test, it was raining. I fell off the bike just before the exam and promptly decided that perhaps motorcycling wasn't for me after all. I went home, licked my wounds, and put the dream in a box.
Fifteen years passed.
Then life presented me with another opportunity.
This time I had a boyfriend who rode a motorbike, which certainly added fuel to the fire. I signed up for lessons and convinced myself that this was going to be the year.
The problem was that reality looked very different from the fantasy.
The lessons were expensive, it was January, the weather was ice cold and the bikes were h.e.a.v.y.
And whilst nobody likes to admit it, learning to manoeuvre a large motorbike can be physically demanding, particularly when you're a relatively small woman trying to control a machine that seems determined to remind you of the laws of gravity.
But even so, week after week I turned...
Why You Don't Really Want Happiness And What You Probably Want Instead
I can't believe I'm about to say this...
I NEVER want you to be happy because what I want for you is so much bigger than happiness.
Ok, let’s dig.
Why do we only strive for this one emotion when there are so many more beautiful ones to experience?
I have a theory.
Because we’ve been hypnotised to believe that happiness is the thing we SHOULD want and there are certain things that will get us there.
The swimming pool, the house, the pay rise, the Gucci, the 5 star trips, the accolades, the milestones, the glitterati friendships.
But why is it that when we get there, it only feels good for a moment and then the emptiness settles in again?
It’s because happiness, like all emotion, is fleeting.
After working with people deeply for 23 years, I am 99.9% certain that happiness is not what most people want. They want something more enduring, something more foundational.
When my clients tell me that all they want is to be happy, it's a sign that deeper enquiry is needed.
...How To Achieve More Embodied Pleasure with Jem Ayres
When did we last award someone for being the most orgasmic, pleasure centred human?
Answer: erm... never.
So where are we supposed to get our inspiration from when it comes to giving ourselves permission to feel good? Where are the role models?
Enter: Jem Ayres.
Jem is a Sexological Bodyworker who pleasured her way out of Stage 4 cancer (along with all the conventional treatments of course).
In this conversation we talk about:
✨ Recovering from Stage 4 cancer
✨ The health benefits of orgasm
✨ Full body orgasm vs genital orgasm
✨ How we learn to 'tolerate' suffering
✨ Do we even look up to role models who endorse pleasure?
✨ How to ensure that chaos can’t touch you
✨ Self development as a 'body' pursuit not just a 'mind' pursuit
✨ Trusting & listening your own body vs the people around you telling you what to feel
✨ Finding pleasure even in pain
✨ Arousal and pleasure are two separate things.
✨ The old idea of sex needing to end in orgasm
✨ Accessing pleasure as the precursor for m...
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