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Healing from anything is often a time when we come out of the matrix and as a result, our perspective shifts dramatically.

Before we take a look at the paradigms I’m no longer subscribing to (and why), let’s take a look at what exactly a paradigm is.

A paradigm is a framework, model or way of thinking. Essentially it's a lens through which individuals, communities, countries, political parties, organisations and religions interpret the world around them. It's how they define problems and search for solutions.

Paradigms define the scope of enquiry, establish boundaries and set the criteria for what is considered valid and important.

Paradigms are often well established and can be hard to change because they are often accepted as the ‘norms’. However some paradigms are extremely harmful to our mental and emotional wellbeing.

Shifting a paradigm often requires a kind of 'rebellion' as a way of taking our power back.

Here are some of paradigms that I’m no longer sub...

What happens when you want to connect with others but your nervous system finds connection a threat? 

This is a dichotomy that many people face as they long for connection but also find it difficult [enter social anxiety].

Let’s start at the beginning. Why might someone feel this?

If we’ve had adverse relational experiences in childhood or adulthood (either through abuse, neglect or enmeshment) we may find it difficult to trust that others will be able to meet our needs. 

Maybe we’ll feel that...

We’ll be judged for who we are.

Our needs won’t beacknowledge.

We’ll be ignored.

We’ll be taken advantage of.

Boundaries will be overstepped.

We’ll be scrutinised and those observations will be used against us.

It's not a co-incidence that we worry about these things.  Somewhere in  our past we had a very good reason to worry about them.

For many, these concerns are paralysing because when you have these beliefs AND a desire to form connections, you’re in confl...

Many partners these days spend a lot of time (while together) on social media each being drawn further and further into their own paradigm creating a schism in their relational bubble proving it harder and harder to coexist in real life due to massive differences in thinking (phew that was a long sentence!). 

And did you know relational disharmony massively increases feelings of anxiety, so it's worth investing some time in to get right.

Creating harmony in such a relationship can be incredibly challenging unless both parties are willing to actively come out of their paradigms in participate in the paradigm of their relationship on a regular basis (how often needs to be agreed). 

It requires:  a recognition of what is going on, a willingness to participate in the relationship and the environment of the relationship (ie the home), open communication, mutual respect, and a stretch to understand and appreciate each other's perspectives. 

Useful Pointers.

1. Open and ho...

Frankly there’s no point in making the investment in RTT if the changes are not going to stick right?

So how do we make that happen for you to help you with your weight loss journey, or your anxiety recovery or whatever else you're here for,  even after you've listened to your recording for 30 days?

Short of me living with you and following you around everywhere, you’re going to have to apply some principles by yourself.

Here’s what I recommend [adapted from ACT therapy principles].

Purpose - KNOW the reason WHY you want to continue the change. What are your values? Why are they important to you and how are you going to commit to them? Also, what are the consequences of reverting back to the old way of thinking or the old behaviour?

Practice - Changing thought and behaviour patterns is a PRACTICE. Just like you have to practice golf to get better at golf you have to practice choosing a different thought and behaviour to get better at choosing a different thought and...

Have you heard of Absolute Thinking? Some call it rigid thinking.  If you get stuck in a state a state of overwhelm, anxiety, depression or procrastination (and you’ve tried everything) it might be because of something called 'absolute thinking'.

Absolute thinking can often pose a problem because it can lead to inflexibility, intolerance, and difficulty in problem-solving. For example, a person who engages in absolute thinking might be unable to consider alternative solutions to a problem because they believe there is no way out. 

Examples of absolute thinking are: 

"Men/women never listen"
"I never sleep well in the summer"
"I always feel bad during my period"
"Ageing is a curse"
"No one is ever there for me"

Absolute thinking is characterised by the words 'always' and 'never' and denotes psychological inflexibility.

Psychological flexibility, on the other hand, is the ability to adapt and respond effectively to changing situations and challenging experiences.

Someone with flexible th...

Hypnotherapy, which is the use of hypnosis for therapeutic purposes, has a long and fascinating history dating back thousands of years.

What most people don't realise is that hypnosis is a state of mind that occurs every day and it doesn't actually feel that unusal.  In simple terms it's when we are 'in the zone'.  During this state time passes quickly and we don't consciously remember making that cup of tea, or driving to that location, our automatic pilot takes over.  Essentially it's when our brain wave speed slow down. 

During hypnotherapy, the hypnotherapist induces a slower brainwave state by helping you to relax.  This opens the doorway between the mind and body enabling us to do some all important work on your psychology. 

Ancient civilizations such as the Egyptians, Greeks, and Romans all used forms of hypnosis for healing and spiritual purposes. In fact, the word "hypnosis" comes from the Greek word "hypnos," which means "sleep."

In the 18th and 19th centuries...

The only way to conquer your fears is to face them head-on. It's not easy, but it's worth it.

Last week in Cornwall we walked around The Rumps with big ole sheer drops next to us.

Not gonna lie… I felt a bit 🤢, but it felt great to conquer something scary and made me feel alive. 

It got me thinking about facing fears.  Many of us are stuck in a rut because we don’t want to expose ourselves to fear but the longer you leave it, the worse it gets in your head.

So….

Here are some tips for facing your fears:

1. Identify your fears: Write down what you're afraid of and why.

2. Start small: Take small steps towards facing your fear. For example, if you're afraid of heights, start by standing on a step stool and work your way up.

3. Seek support: Talk to someone you trust about your fears and ask for their support.

4. Focus on the present: Don't let your mind wander to negative outcomes. Focus on the present moment and take things one step at a time.

Remember, facing your fears takes...

What many people don't realise, is that our ability to focus affects our overall sense of wellbeing.  A scattered focus degrades our wellbeing and a sharp focus enhances it.  So follow these six steps to help you improve yours. 

ONE:

Recognise what’s happening to you.

Recognise that every time you go on your phone corporations with gargantuan influence have a vested interested in stealing your attention and they will make it so compelling that you don’t even know it’s happening. Basically if you’re not on your phone, they can’t target you with advertising or influence, so they WANT you on your phone and they will make it incredibly enticing. When you feel yourself getting sucked into a rabbit hole that is numbing you out, just yell at yourself to STOP. Remind yourself what your values are and then ask yourself is mindless scrolling in line with my values or against my values? Now go and do something that is IN LINE with your values, even if it feels less compelling. Caveat: Scrollin...

Mental health challenges at menopause are the un-sung symptoms of this transition and for many, it may be the first time that anxiety or depression have been experienced. 

My guest today is Chris McDonald.  She's a Holistic Licensed Therapist and owns a group online practice, “Path to Hope Counseling”. 

In today's episode, we discuss:

🧠 What holistic therapy entails that other therapies don't.
🧠 If you don't do this one thing (even if you're having therapy), nothing is going to work.
🧠 How to overcome the challenges of personal responsibility.
🧠 What resilience is and what it is not.
🧠 Sleep - what to do if you wake up in the middle of the night.
🧠 The power of radical acceptance and the reason it's so difficult to do.
🧠 The most incredible thing I've found to help me self soothe.  
🧠 Cooking and creativity.
🧠 What might be better than talk therapy if you're dysregulated.
🧠 Breaking the cycle of depression.
🧠 How this particular group of people can help you to re-parent yourself

.... and ...

And that is exactly what addictions do right?  They keep you shackled, they keep you bound, they keep you stuck, they stop you from reaching your true inner potential.    There are many kinds of addictions too. Maybe you’re addicted to sex but want to have a meaningful relationship, maybe you’re addicted to sugar but want to kick metabolic syndrome, maybe you’re addicted to work and lack friendships , maybe you’re addicted to your own ego but want to be more self less and kinder to others, maybe you’re addicted to drugs and alcohol but want to be free of all of that. 

In essence, the addiction will always block the potential.  Addictions keep you disempowered and small and they never work because they can never satiate you.  An addiction will never satisfy you that’s why you need more of it each time - that’s how they work, that’s how they have their power OVER you.  So, if an addiction was going to make you happy it would have done so by now!  True?  Yes!  An addiction can never r...