What happens when you want to connect with others but your nervous system finds connection a threat?
This is a dichotomy that many people face as they long for connection but also find it difficult [enter social anxiety].
Let’s start at the beginning. Why might someone feel this?
If we’ve had adverse relational experiences in childhood or adulthood (either through abuse, neglect or enmeshment) we may find it difficult to trust that others will be able to meet our needs.
Maybe we’ll feel that...
We’ll be judged for who we are.
Our needs won’t beacknowledge.
We’ll be ignored.
We’ll be taken advantage of.
Boundaries will be overstepped.
We’ll be scrutinised and those observations will be used against us.
It's not a co-incidence that we worry about these things. Somewhere in our past we had a very good reason to worry about them.
For many, these concerns are...