How can you create harmony in your relationship if you both exist in different paradigms?

Many partners these days spend a lot of time (while together) on social media each being drawn further and further into their own paradigm creating a schism in their relational bubble proving it harder and harder to coexist in real life due to massive differences in thinking (phew that was a long sentence!). 


And did you know relational disharmony massively increases feelings of anxiety, so it's worth investing some time in to get right.


Creating harmony in such a relationship can be incredibly challenging unless both parties are willing to actively come out of their paradigms in participate in the paradigm of their relationship on a regular basis (how often needs to be agreed). 


It requires:  a recognition of what is going on, a willingness to participate in the relationship and the environment of the relationship (ie the home), open communication, mutual respect, and a stretch to understand and appreciate each other's perspectives. 


Useful Pointers.


1. Open and honest communication: Establishing a safe and non-judgmental space where both of you can express your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs without fear of criticism or misunderstanding. Actively listening to each other, ask questions to gain clarity, and be open to understanding different points of view.


2. Respecting each other's differences: Recognizing that it's natural for people to have different paradigms and belief systems. Respect your partner's perspective, even if you don't agree with it. Avoid trying to change or convince them to adopt your paradigm. Focus on finding common ground and areas where you can compromise. 


3. Practice empathy and understanding: Make an effort to understand your partner's paradigm, values, and experiences. Put yourself in their shoes and try to see the world from their perspective. This can help foster empathy and reduce conflicts arising from misunderstandings.


4. Find common values and goals: Identify shared values and goals that transcend your different paradigms. Focus on the aspects that you both agree on and build your relationship around those commonalities. This can provide a strong foundation for your relationship and help you navigate differences more effectively.


5. Educate yourselves about each other's paradigms: Take the time to learn about each other's paradigms, beliefs, and backgrounds. Engage in thoughtful discussions, read books or articles, and attend events that promote understanding and learning about different worldviews. This knowledge can help bridge the gap between your paradigms and promote a deeper connection.


6. Seek professional help if needed: If the differences in your paradigms are causing significant conflicts or difficulties, consider seeking the right kind of support either individually or together.  [Consider Rapid Transformational Therapy whether you're local to me in Brighton or further afield as your individual option]


Basically creating a healthy relationship in the face of different paradigms requires patience, understanding, and a genuine commitment to each other. It may take time, effort, and compromise, but with mutual respect and open-mindedness, you can build a strong and fulfilling partnership.


Let me know if this blog has been helpful or if there's something else you'd like me to cover.

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