Let me tell you about a client of mine who recently came in with anxiety and social anxiety. I asked her what it felt like and these are some of the symptoms she described to me: 1) Feeling very easily overwhelmed, stressed and easily triggered. 2) Feeling agoraphobic so doesn’t want to socialise through fear of needing to ‘get out of there’ in case I can’t be myself. 3) Feels easily claustrophobic especially when going from outside to inside. 4) Can’t speak up in meetings through fear of not being able to find the right words and getting tongue tied.
Does this sound familiar? Anxiety is a very common ailment and is designed to protect us. Anxiety makes us super cautious so that we don't upset anyone and risk being ostracised.
THE BELEIFS BEHIND ANXIETY
Anxiety is exhausting because the beliefs behind them require such control. With anxiety sufferers you see and hear these kinds of beliefs coming up all the time:
“It’s not safe to be me”
“I’m different and it’s not safe to be different, so I’ll change in order to fit in and belong.”
“Everyone around me MUST feel happy, if their not, I’ve failed in some way.”
“Everything has to be perfect, I have to be perfect otherwise I’ve failed in some way and I must not fail…. if I fail my ‘dad’ won’t talk to me.”
How many of these do you recognise and where do those beliefs come from within you? In RTT we use hypnosis and regression to find out what you experienced as a child which created these beliefs and others like them.
One of Marisa Peer's clients who was a young budding actor had massive anxiety and when he was regressed he went back to a time where he was publicly humiliated for behaving sexually in an acting class when he was 6 years old. It’s normal for kids to play doctors and nurses and to investigate their body parts, but what wasn’t normal was the way it was handled by the acting school. So this shame and humiliation left a very strong belief in this young actor that said “if I’m myself, I’m gonna be punished but I'd better shut down who I am.” As a result he created all sorts of addictions to cover up the pain of not feeling safe. As soon as significant people shame you or diminish your feelings you will start to limit yourself and that's what anxiety does.... it limits you.
The mind's job is to always keep you safe and protected from hurt and rejection, so it shuts down all of your juicy qualities that were natural to you as a child because you learnt that they were somehow wrong (perhaps from one or two of the adults around you). Anxiety keeps you safe because it limits you and now your mind thinks that's what you want too.
But we know that having this anxiety is not working out for you, right? So it's your adult mind's job to tell your sub concious what you want instead.
We have to re-train the mind to focus differently until this new habit of thought becomes familiar. We have to treat ourselves like a peak performer. There are 3 main ways we can shift our thinking:
So there you have it. Put yourself first and the rest will follow.
Book a call if you want to find out if RTT is right for you.
Bye for now.